Welcome to my blog “HAPPY NOW!”

Let me start by explaining the title of this blog. Happy Now! can be asked as a question to ponder. Or when used as a phrase, it’s often sarcastic. I chose it for the following 3 reasons  First – I’ve been accused on more than one occasion of being sarcastic, so it’s fitting.  Second – I … Read more

Happy 1st September

Wow start of a new month and I realised I haven’t written a post since 19th July – when I admitted to struggling a bit. So what have I been up to?  Well I decided to consciously focus on my own wellbeing. Which among other things involved a bit less doing and a bit more … Read more

I’ve been struggling a bit

I was doing quite well with my work on being happy now – then a memory popped up on my facebook feed from 2018 which sent me into a bit of a tail spin of sadness – I shared a little of how I was feeling on my facebook page.   “I can’t believe this … Read more

Have you heard of Toxic Positivity?

Basically it’s believing that you should always put a positive spin on all experiences, no matter how awful.  Positivity is obviously a good thing – and certainly better than negativity – so when does it become toxic? I believe when it’s emotionally invalidating. When it encourages the bypassing of authentic feelings.   And even when … Read more

The truth about depression

It’s 08.37am I’ve walked the dogs and had breakfast. Now I’m sitting in my garden. The sun is shining in a cloudless blue sky. The birds are singing. I’m sipping a latte and planning my day. First I have a coaching session with a client. An intelligent self taught deep thinker diagnosed with a personality … Read more